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MAN'S CHANGE - MYTHS AND THE REALITY

Statistical researches assert, that 80 percent of husbands at least time in a life changed to the wives. Why men can support all life one football club, but not in a condition store fidelity to the unique woman? For the woman change is always a pain, the majority of wives perceive such behaviour as treachery. Reaction, as a rule, happens two types: "All muzhiks" or "That I have made goats not so?". Why they change? We will try to separate a reality from myths.

 

The biological nature
At genetic level at men and women the different model of sexual behaviour is put in pawn. If for women it is important to bring into the world and grow up posterity for men - to impregnate as much as possible "females". It is valid so but why then with development of a human civilisation polygamous marriage even more often gives way monogamous, even in the Muslim countries? All the same the change reasons more often psychological, and "genetics" is only convenient cover.

Social installations
The quantity of sexual partners at the man raises its rank among other men, and women too. The ideal of man's community - the person who does not run behind skirts, but as required will not miss the. " The gain "and" victory "- keywords in a man's lexicon, without dependence from, whether concern they work, sports or women. Husbands who keep fidelity to the wives, in man's collective can cause sneers and condemnation, if not in an explicit form, at least, at unconscious level. And women prefer those who is a success at girlfriends. If the fooled around woman is pursued in most cases by feeling of fault at the man, on the contrary, change raises a self-estimation, it becomes more self-assured, that affects and his career. And further he already begins to enjoy, and one casual change can cause chain reaction. From here and aspiration of many men in the evening of life to get the young mistress - so he underlines the importance, and, probably, it is simply accepted in a circle of its dialogue. So if the husband does not change to the wife all 20 years of a joint life or it it is simple to nobody is interesting, or it does not have necessity to ego-trip in a similar way. Alas, so successful and self-assured people presently a rarity.

Effect of novelty
Men by the nature researchers, frequent change of impressions and the new information is necessary to them. After all it has already studied the wife to last birthmark on a heel and can predict its reaction to any act, therefore sometimes the change reason is only that this woman simply another, not important, young or old, beautiful or not so. And after satisfaction of the curiosity the man with quiet conscience comes back to the favourite girlfriend. It is no wonder, that object of man's sexual imaginations it becomes frequent the closest friend of the wife or sister - the woman who is similar to it, but all the same another. Strangely enough, men admit, that or even simply friendly dialogue information hunger, and sex in this case - only pleasant, but unessential addition can quite satisfy easy flirtation. So if the husband on your eyes flirts with the girlfriend, probably, this just a sign of that all and will be limited to it.

Sexual dissatisfaction
"The man changes, because sexual relations with the wife have ceased suit it", - repeat to us from pages of female magazines and advise not to go at home in hair curlers and a dressing gown and to carry sexual linen. But presently any normal woman and houses tries to look beautiful. Men are not so primitive, and if sexual relations with the partner the problem, most likely, not in appeal or unattractiveness of the woman, and opposite - except bed at partners does not remain other general interests have ceased to arrange it, and the man seeks elsewhere not sex, and understanding.

Change and relations
For men sex on the party is as a dinner not houses, and at restaurant, the pleasure is simple. If women only could present to themselves, how much easily men concern sex! But they cannot present it, as sex for the woman is not simply physiological pleasure, and always (well or in most cases) relations.

However... The Same statistics asserts, that only 30 % of wives change to the spouses. But with whom then husbands change? After all not with men. Figures do not converge. Perhaps, the matter is that simply it is easier to men to admit it? Whether because of social installations which suppose for them in change questions considerable indulgences, whether women are simply more cautious. Innocent until proven guilty?

"Dear, it is necessary for me to you which in what to admit", - the dying husband to the wife has told.
"It is not necessary, favourite".
"No, I all the same should facilitate the soul. I changed to you with your best girlfriend and with two your sisters".
"I know, favourite, therefore I and have added in a borsch arsenic".

In any case, men should reflect - if you fool around, it almost for certain means, as it does the same. How to you such prospect?

Veronica Rok
 

14.05.06